Do you ever have those days that every little thing either upsets you, disappoints, or irritates? Yeah, me too. Why? Because we are human and we are allowed to have those emotions. I for one am one of those sensitive types, even though I do my darnedest to hide that beneath my strong and "nothing bothers me" exterior (especially at work!). I like to think this works well in my favor, but sadly it does not. What I've realized over the years is that the only person suffering when we dwell on emotions and bury them deep inside is OURSELVES. Why torture yourself? Let it out for goodness sake!!!
Undoubtedly we all have moments when people we love don't' live up to the expectations we have set for them. Go ahead and read that last sentence, maybe out loud this time. Do you hear that? ITS RIDICULOUS! We do not have any control over what others do or say. So it is very possible that any expectations we set will never be met. But what we DO have control over is our own emotions, and how we choose to react to others. The one common denominator in all of these things is you, or "SELF". If you're upset go ahead and be upset for a little while, it is healthy to experience these emotions. That's why we have them! They make us stronger. They teach us valuable lessons if we let them. It's all part of the human experience, and I for one want mine to be spectacular!!! So I started listening...
What I have begun to realize is that I am the only one that is responsible for the way I feel. If the energy around me is undesirable and I start to feel down, I try to ask myself why I feel this way? The immediate response is usually "well because THIS or THAT or THEM or something...is MAKING me feel this way". Nothing is making me do anything except for myself. So after a little pity party I pull on my big girl pants and say "HEY! I don't like this feeling! What can I gain from this experience, or what am I missing here?" Maybe it's simply nothing and it's time to move on. OR, maybe there's a silver lining and it just takes a minute to breath and find the good in any situation. This is hard to do a lot of times. But what helps me is breathing deeply....seriously, take three deep breaths in and out and you'll start to feel better, to think more clearly, and to relax. Take a step back and reassess what's happening.
We have the freedom to choose how we act and react in any situation. We can choose to hold on to negativity and we can also choose to let things go. This is the beauty of being a human and having free will! We have the choice to be happy! To see the good. So, what are you going to choose today?
I choose happy.
By Amber Lynch, LMT, Herbalist, Holistic Nutritional Coach